Bhagavad Gita 13.9
असक्तिरनभिष्वङ्गः पुत्रदारगृहादिषु। नित्यं च समचित्तत्वमिष्टानिष्टोपपत्तिषु॥
asaktir anabhiṣvaṅgaḥ putra-dāra-gṛhādiṣu nityaṁ ca sama-cittatvam iṣṭāniṣṭopapattiṣu
Translation
Non-attachment, freedom from clinging to son, wife, home, and the rest; constant equability of mind in occurrences pleasant and unpleasant.
Reflection
Watch one ishta and one anishta arrive. Does equability hold across both?
Read this verse in its chapter: Chapter Thirteen
Two more items. Asakti, non-attachment. Anabhishvanga, the deeper letter of the same lesson: no clinging-into. Son, wife, home, possessions. Not abandoned, not despised. Loved without the death-grip that turns love into hostage-taking. Then nityam, always: equability of mind whether what arrives is wanted or unwanted. This is the harder line. Pleasure and pain are going to come whether you like it or not. The question is whether your equilibrium has to ride their wave. The portrait keeps sharpening: a person who participates fully without being deformed by what they get. Today, watch one ishta and one anishta arrive, and notice whether equability holds across them or only on the pleasant side.